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streeter:

I’m glad the portrait of Ben Franklin stayed the same on the new $100 bill. There’s something about his slight, tight frown, the paternal hint of disappointment in his eyes and those pursed, sealed lips that seem to say, “I don’t approve of what you’re doing, but I can’t stop you from rolling this banknote into a straw and ripping a fat rail of white lightning in the Buffalo Wild Wings handicapped bathroom stall, you goddamn beautiful disaster.” 

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queerandpresentdanger:

Scenes from Fat: the Play, a play some friends and I cowrote and performed about being fat queer femmes. We entered into Frontera Festival, a short play festival, in Austin and performed initially on Friday. We were then chosen for Best of the Week, and after Saturday’s performance have been selected to go on to Best of the Festival. We will perform two more times this week.

This play was written by BunnyDanJulesAltheaNicoleSandy, and myself and directed by Jules.

The director’s note goes as follows:

We are a group of fat femme-identified queers. Most of us are not actors and don’t identify as writers, but we have stories to tell. For two months, we have been meeting to talk and eat and cry and laugh and write about living in fat bodies. How do our different race, gender and class identities affect our experiences as fat people? How do we undo the internalized shame our culture has taught us? For so long this word has been used against us- to dehumanize us and to pathologize us:

Fat adjective: (of a person or animal) having a large amount of excess flesh.

But fat is not lazy. Fat is not ugly. Fat is not stupid. Fat is fun. Fat is beautiful. Fat is smart. Fat is sexy. 

Take a moment to consider how you think about fat people; about the fat people you see on t.v., the fat people you see in the super market, the fat people that you love. 

This is for you. But it is also for us. We ask you to bear witness to our reclamation.”

Photo credit to Beverly Bland Boydston.

this is so powerful and important, the whole world needs to see it.

Fat babes making art about being fat babes is always relevant to everyone’s interests.

😍😵had to reblog because I’m all over this shit

arabellesicardi:

The net worth of the average black household in the United States is $6,314, compared with $110,500 for the average white household, 

The net worth of the average black household in the United States is $6,314, compared with $110,500 for the average white household, 

The net worth of the average black household in the United States is $6,314, compared with $110,500 for the average white household, 

I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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